John's family is really nice. We don't get together that often, but when we do, it's always fun.
We don't get invited to family things on John's side very much. It really bugs me. Is it because of John? Is it me? Do they not like me that well?
Recently, John's mom got remarried ... to a nice older gentleman. It was great. John volunteered both of us to help serve some of the reception goodies. I didn't mind helping. John is always willing to help. Well, after we made sure things were running smoothly, we went to grab some dinner. While we were out, I remember thinking that I hope we don't miss the cake-cutting.
When we returned, I was sickened to see the wedding cake already cut, and an empty chair nearby (for those of you who know what that empty chair means.... haha!). We missed out. Sad. We missed out, kind of because we went to get food later-on, BECAUSE we were helping set up the reception.
I brought this up with John's mom the other day. His sister was there too, and said that she got video of the whole thing. That wasn't really my point. Nobody made sure we were there. Nobody called us (except for John's brother .... who called after the cake was cut ... just wondering where we were). Nobody made sure all of John's mom's children were present.
Somehow John ended up with the list of wedding photos to take, which the photographer wrote. The photographer was John 's cousin.
I looked at that list more closely today out of curiosity, because the photos were taken out of order of the list. To my dismay, I saw all of John's siblings listed on the paper ... EXCEPT US!! And do you know what is more sickening? One of John's brothers got married just this past year, and his wife was listed next to his. BUT WE WERE NOT THERE. Not even John--without me. WHAT THE HECK? I even made sure I double- and triple-checked the list. When I saw that, it didn't feel like a stab in the back. It felt like a stab in the gut because we've been to multiple family gatherings since we got married over five years ago.
Why do we keep getting left out? Is it because of John? Is it me? Do they not like me that well? I just don't get it. I really don't get it. Sometimes I just feel like just shouting:
"We're here!! We exist! We have cell phones! We have email!"
There's really no reason to leave us out so much. Granted, I don't call/email as much, because I feel like when I do call or email, I don't get a reply call/email. But that's not my point. My point is ... I don't know what my point is. What is my point? Probably just that we don't get included as much.
I keep hearing of phone calls between John's siblings, and we hardly get any calls from them. Sometimes when we get together, someone mentions an event and John and I are the ONLY ones who haven't heard about it.
With the holidays approaching, I really feel like spending all the time with my family ... but I know that John would want to spend time with his family. He's just thoughtful that way. I love my hubby.
(I wish it were the end of all of this.)